I have a special birthday coming up soon and as I consider how to celebrate I have thought a lot about friendship. What makes a good, lasting friend? Who are my friends? Dare I suggest that I have several really good friends?
So when I stumbled- literally – across this list of key characteristics of a really good friend I knew I had to share it.
For what it’s worth, I have a few thoughts on ingredients which are helpful in cultivating this kind of relationship:
- A listening ear
- An open heart
- Sensitivity to the Spirit
- A sense of humor (especially a willingness to laugh at yourself)
- Grace for “life interruptions”
- A heart that forgives quickly and frequently
- Letting go of things that don’t really matter while holding on to things that do
- Forgetting the worst and remembering the best
- Humbly confronting when necessary
- Speaking truth in love–always
- Serving as a faithful encourager
- Taking time to cultivate a long history together
- Commitment to prayerful intercession
If you are longing for this kind of friendship, don’t wait for someone to befriend you; take the first step by asking God to lead you to someone who needs a friend. Be this kind of friend (John 15:13; 1 John 3:16-18).
Thanks for these words from Kimberly Wagner from the True Woman website.