Really really good friends…

I have a special birthday coming up soon and as I consider how to celebrate I have thought a lot about friendship. What makes a good, lasting friend? Who are my friends? Dare I suggest that I have several really good friends?

So when I stumbled-  literally – across this list of key characteristics of a really good friend I knew I had to share it.

For what it’s worth, I have a few thoughts on ingredients which are helpful in cultivating this kind of relationship:

  • A listening ear
  • An open heart
  • Tenderness
  • Confidentiality
  • Loyalty
  • Humility
  • Sensitivity to the Spirit
  • Devotion 
  • A sense of humor (especially a willingness to laugh at yourself)
  • Grace for “life interruptions” 
  • A heart that forgives quickly and frequently
  • Letting go of things that don’t really matter while holding on to things that do
  • Patience
  • Forgetting the worst and remembering the best
  • Humbly confronting when necessary
  • Speaking truth in love–always
  • Serving as a faithful encourager
  • Taking time to cultivate a long history together
  • Commitment to prayerful intercession

If you are longing for this kind of friendship, don’t wait for someone to befriend you; take the first step by asking God to lead you to someone who needs a friend. Be this kind of friend (John 15:13; 1 John 3:16-18).

Thanks for these words from Kimberly Wagner from the True Woman website.