Magic Words

You know it is true. Manners are paramount. They are important for everyone – big people and little people. But why do they seem to disappear when we are busy, frustrated, rushed or impatient? I find all sorts of things come rushing out of my mouth…strange sounds, harsh tones, sometimes inaudible gasps of discouragement when I am trying to negotiate the bedtime routine, or finalise teeth cleaning, hair brushing and back packing as we are scrambling out the door in the morning.
Manners are magic. But I need more than “nice ” words. I need to make time to stop, pause and carve out a moment before I speak. I  need to take a deep breath and carefully choose my words. Words that instruct but simultaneously affirm and encourage. As two small people left for school today my youngest called out  “God Bloss”. Her own special, well chosen positive words. Magic.