Fashion Talks to Modesty

How short are your shorts?

Fashion has never liked being in conversation with modesty. They each have different agendas and aspirations. Fashion is dictated to by the trends, the seasons new colourways, patterns, fabrics, look and lengths. Modesty however, is concerned more with presentation, comfort and practicality. But the two don’t need to be mutually exclusive.

There are many occasions when fashion and modesty have a great time together. If you like design and fashion but you are also mindful of dressing in a manner that is flattering to your shape and not drawing extra attention to your womanly bits, then there is every chance you have an eye for great clothes and look good most of the time.

But you know there are also extremes. When fashion strides out, making a mark of the local street with all manner of outrageous designs. Similarly, modesty can become too self righteous and sport frumpy, old school cover-alls that are unfeminine and a design nightmare. Either way no one wins. And both fashion and modesty look ordinary.

As the mother of girls and as summer approaches I am scanning wardrobes and editing and collating clothes that fit well, are fun and fashionable but are not skimpy, short or too revealing. And I need to apply that to my wardrobe as well.

You may be new to this and think I am overacting. Once upon a time I would have reacted that way too. But there is good reason to work through the whole topic of modesty. I have found C.J. Mahaney and his wife on this topic very helpful. You can read a blog series and download them here.  Or visit the GirlTalk Blog and see how they have developed the discussion between fashion and modesty. Take the challenge and make Fashion and Modesty Talk.

Today is not Valentine’s Day….

But each day we should share love with each other… something fun and tell those we cherish, 
we do indeed cherish them.
The quote from this blog is great.
“Are you in love with your husband? Not, Do you love him? I know you do. He has been around a long time, and you’re used to him. He is the father of your children. But are you in love with him? How long has it been since your heart really squeezed when you looked at him?…Why is it you have forgotten the things that attracted you to him at first?…Your husband needs to be told that you love him, that he is attractive to you. By the grace of God, I want you to start changing your thought pattern. Tomorrow morning, get your eyes off the toaster or the baby bottles long enough to LOOK at him. Don’t you see the way his coat fits his shoulders? Look at his hands. Do you remember when just to look at his strong hands made your heart lift? Well, LOOK at him and remember. Then loose your tongue and tell him you love him. Will you ask the Lord to give you a sentimental, romantic, physical, in-love kind of love for your husband? He will do this.”~Shirley Rice