This idea resonated with me today. In the Western world we all have so much, yet many of us suffer from FOMO. Fear Of Missing Out.
If I make a decision to take job X I may miss out on job Y. Each decision and choice we make has a cost, an opportunity cost. But it is sometimes this fear of missing out, of wanting it all and working ever so hard to determine how we can have everything that eventually causes us to fall. Our fear forces us to fail.
FOMO is real. By His grace I can think of countless decisions I have made that have been a blessing but have also meant that I missed out. I chose to say yes to my man and missed a year of possible travel. I chose to say yes to have another baby and missed out on a big career opportunity. I suspect there are smaller things that I encounter each day that also force me to debate X and Y. But I don’t want fear or failure to be the guiding forces. Wise decision making. If you want to know more you can read it/ watch it it here from Tyler David : Wisdom in Decision Making. at the Austin Stone Community Church.
I think we all struggle with making decisions. Big ones. Life changing or semi life altering ones.
As a woman, wife, mother and well….you know I wear many hats, the ongoing question of work life balance is never too far away.
Work. Paid work. How do you know when it is the right time to go back to work? When is it ok to move from casual to part time to full time? Why work at all? Don’t I have enough to do with 7mouths2feed? Is it not good to work hard to care for my family?
I am thinking about the grid, the framework that I test all of these ideas against. Who do I talk to? How do I think about this in a helpful manner? What is ultimately going to honour the priorities I aim to keep?
So…there is a wee job on the table. What is a girl to do?
Decision making. How do you make good decisions? Good choices that align well with your priorities for faith, family, work, finances, friendship and health? I am aware that many of us make decisions, based upon whether something feels right or good. Others pull a big life decision through a grid of girlfriends and a few coffees or wines, hoping that you might reach a good decision by consensus. Others are even tempted, and I am sure you have seen this in action, to decide via Facebook input. Depending on the number of likes and comments that come via your social media network of choice you will make a decision.
Many of us haven’t analysed how we decide about who we will marry, how many kids we will have, whether to work or not, go for that career advancement, make a new investment, when to take a holiday, how to give to charity, whether we should renovate, rent or build a new house, buy a new car, boat or gadget. You get the picture. Sometimes we are simply influenced by the community or network around us into making decisions just like our peers. We keep up with the “Jones family” without realising that is what we are doing. And we are stressed, unhappy and discontent as a result.
In an ideal world we would all have clear priorities for life, a supportive network of friends and confidants who can encourage us or challenge our thinking, a faith framework that ultimately guides our approach to decision making and an awareness of our self that allows us to see where we might be investing poorly. But there reality is we can seldom tick all of these boxes.
Perhaps you would like to start thinking about life and how you could do life better. How do you think about decision making?
Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. Proverbs 3: 5-6