I saw this image on social media and laughed. I don’t watch Netflix in bed, but a last minute check of FB or Insta…..maybe. Sometimes I do that. But why? It wrecks my sleep, it can make me agitated and cross. And I find I have hundreds of new ideas buzzing in my head. When really I need to be winding down….
Secretly I know I am not alone here. You take your phone to bed don’t you? We use the alarm, some are tracking their sleep, noting their overnight breastfeeds, checking their bank accounts, flight details. Do you need a reason? We are on auto when it comes to our phone. A touch and we are there, transported to every world but the land of NOD. I am writing about this because it is time I edited this one little habit from my routine. I need a tech free hour before bed. More cups of peppermint tea, a bath, a book and some quiet.
So will you join me? Real quick, you and I can change the world, one good night sleep at a time.
Part 1: Face your fear.
I have been thinking a lot about fear and what stops me from doing what my heart really wants. What are the obstacles that prevent me from experiencing all of the joy and happiness that is possible?
There are no easy answers. The questions invite consideration and much reflection. And I have started that process. Maybe I am swatting up for that New Year resolution months early because I know that any real change in direction and vocation will take time.
2015 has already been a huge year. My eldest completed his last year of school and my youngest started her first. Family life continues to push us all forward, the wheels of the bus keep turning, the engine hums but…..I just need to stop and get off every now and again and do a maintenance check. Is everyone ok? How is this thing called family? Are we all on the same page, working towards the same goals? What is our family mission? How can we help and support each other to be the best we can possibly be? And it is sometimes quite scary to ask those questions, to dig deep into the hearts and minds of our loved ones. But it is necessary.
Will you join me and face your fear in the last weeks of this year 2015? Grab a journal, a pen and an awesome playlist on your iPhone and start making note of all of things that have been jumping out at you, demanding your attention. Don’t overthink the task just write, list, doodle…..make marks on the paper. Stay tuned for part 2: Break your fear.
“Always do what you’re afraid to do.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Some days are going to be remembered as great days. Starting days. Change days.
I think today could be one.
Many women feel overwhelmed by making choices and starting something new. Taking a risk is too hard. Following you heart is something that over time stops happening. Busyness and the 24/7 caring of small people, putting everyone’s needs before your own means that we are often unable to see what we need, when we need it most. But change is possible.
Today I am thankful for my man who helps me on this journey, encourages me, allows me to ‘talk’ until I understand what is going on in my world, who laughs with me, cries with me and is my best friend. Even though change is possible and I can make those adjustments and tweaks to me lifestyle, my character ad my heart…..the reality is that I need someone strong beside me. Someone who will be there tomorrow and the next day and the next day, still smiling on days that I am not.
This is the beginning of anything you want, any change or new direction or adventure. My encouragement to you is to choose someone to walk with you. And want to walk with them.
Tuesday has called for chocolate cake. The kind that is quick to make and portion for school lunches. It is a fail safe cake and a recipe passed on to me from my mother. Rich, dark but with basic ingredients you will find in your panty cupboard. There is no real chocolate, cream or special items. I used a Sunbean Mixmaster to make the cake, but I am sure your KitchenAid, Thermomix or Thermo Cook would combine all of these ingredients too. On days when I have more time, I do enjoy combining a cake batter by hand. Do you?
My Mother’s Chocolate Devil Cake:
1 3/4 cups SR Flour
1 1/3 cups sugar
1/2 cup cocoa
1/2 teaspoon Bi Carb Soda
125 gms melted butter
3/4 cups water
Method: Pre-heat oven to 180 degrees celsius. Grease and line a round 20cm tin ( I vary the tin I use, just don’t choose a large one.) Place all dry ingredients in a mixing bowl and combine (by hand or use a mixer). Add half the water, the vanilla and the melted butter and mix for 2 minutes. Add remaining water and eggs and mix until well combined.
Cook in a moderate oven for 30-35 mins.
Dust with icing sugar, or as in the picture above drizzle with a chocolate light icing and sprinkle of 100s and 1000s. Perfect mid week fun.
The week has started with a bang. Busyness, sickness, plans rescheduled.
I am reminded of looking up through the leaves of our weeping cherry tree. Nature’s own lace work, letting in the light in gentle rays. I had a few moments of quiet to be mindful of the blessing of green growth. The new season strips the trees of their leaves and they are transformed into grey spindly branches. Change is coming in the crisp, cool mornings that grab at my lungs as I walk the streets. I feel it as I allow the light in me. This gives me hope on a busy day at the start of the week.
I have one Bella Boo down with a fever…..
I have ripped my good cashmere blend top on the rosebush….while attempting some weeding
The drains have been blocked and we have been left with the smell of sewage in our yard….
Lily and I went to the pool today.
The sun is shining.
I have tidied my desk and dealt with overdue paperwork.
I can’t understand my knitting pattern.
I cooked more bread.
Amelia is crying.