The Photo

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I fell for Elvis back in 1977. Yes the year he died and I was a young poppet. In the years following I manaaged to work my way though viewing his films, black and white wonders with his Elvis style music.

Then in my teens I grew up with this young girl, Madonna. We parted ways after music became less important than style, image and exploring identity.

I was quite taken aback to see this image. The young Madonna finding her way to the Rock’n’ Roll King himself. Making a connection.

Images are powerful. They can transport and transform, transcend time and place. There is power in what is said and unsaid. What is revealed and what is left out of the picture. What else is going on in this photo? Who do we not see? Is there some important action that is taking place to the left or right that we will never know about?

All I know is here is the King and maybe the Queen of the music world. In one capture.

The Right Time

My gut tells me this statement is all wrong. Not now. Later. When I am ready, better prepared, more balanced, more grown up…..Do you find yourself having these late night chats with yourself?

And yet I know that if you came to me with a new idea, project or opportunity I would be encouraging you to go forward and make the most of it. This does not mean that I would want you to jump blindly into something you could not handle but I am aware that for many women we struggle to start the new thing because we ‘feel’ under qualified. Men on the other hand – fake it until they make it, well some of them do.

Let’s take back some of that courage and bravado and do it now. Now is the right time. Are you with me?

Taking your Tween, Teen shopping

Shopping with your kids. How do you go? I am not talking doing the grocery run with tired and grumpy per-schooler. I  mean serious clothes shopping for the tween, teen and young adult.
Here is what I have learned.


There is always a lot of waiting. Whilst the mission of our shopping expedition may have been outlined before our departure it always seems to be difficult to stay on course. Looking for a new pair of jeans can evolve to browsing jewellery, boots and a new jumper. Be prepared to muster much patience. See image above-  I got bored and started taking selfies for Instagram.


At times it is seriously important to offer advice about style, cut and fit, even if the comments are not welcome. This is after all the role of the mother to guard against your child (daughter?) showing too much here or there and to be realistic about what style suits them not some celebrity. But there are other occasions when positive remarks are called for – there is nothing more frustrating than not fitting into an outfit because some body part is too big or too small. So encouragement and perseverance is required.


The adventure to shop for jeans can quickly turn into shopping for several pairs of jeans. So be prepared to negotiate price, payment ( are you paying or am I?) and all the practicalities of making a purchase.


And this outing with your older child can be a great teaching experience – how does EFTPOS work, what is lay-by, budgeting, saving and so one. You can also teach about quality over quantity, buying clothes for seasons and being able to flexible with your expectations of what you had in mind.


Very often there is a child or two who actually hate shopping. So the ‘buy in bulk’, try on outfits at home and then do the returns later have proven to be great options. This can also translate into online shopping. We don’t have access to the full range of shops for special items – think undergarments, formal dresses, black tie and so on. So shopping together at the computer can be rewarding. Just take care to read all the terms and conditions about returns and postage.

Shopping – I am not good at this, don’t get me wrong. I don’t mind shopping. But as an OP Shop Queen from years gone by I find it actually harder to make a purchase when I have choice of style and size. I have been conditioned to look for the treasure and the absolute bargain in the local thrift shop. And you can find great things… just takes time, patience and a whole of negotiating of expectations. Teaching your kids to op shop, now that is another blog post in the making.


I stopped collecting shells some time ago. I didn’t intend to do it. Perhaps it was because my girls tended to leave each beach trip with buckets of shells which we then had to wash, dry and sort. So I just stopped looking. They did enough beach combing for all of us.

 But the reality is I love hunting for treasures on the sand. I am in awe of the colour, shapes and textures of each fragile shell. The pattern and composition. The unexpected act of mindfulness and connection to our creator the beach walk brings.

Tiger, Tyger

Melbourne Zoo 2016

The Tyger
by William Blake


Tyger Tyger, burning bright, 
In the forests of the night; 
What immortal hand or eye, 
Could frame thy fearful symmetry?

In what distant deeps or skies. 
Burnt the fire of thine eyes?
On what wings dare he aspire?
What the hand, dare seize the fire?

And what shoulder, & what art,
Could twist the sinews of thy heart?
And when thy heart began to beat,
What dread hand? & what dread feet?

What the hammer? what the chain, 
In what furnace was thy brain?
What the anvil? what dread grasp, 
Dare its deadly terrors clasp! 

When the stars threw down their spears 
And water’d heaven with their tears: 
Did he smile his work to see?
Did he who made the Lamb make thee?

Tyger Tyger burning bright, 
In the forests of the night: 
What immortal hand or eye,
Dare frame thy fearful symmetry?